Often those who have been betrayed by a infidelity feel like they don’t have a lot of choice in the matter. We don’t really when our spouse/partner decides behind our back to lie, deceive, steal and carry on a adulterous relationship that they SWORE would never happen. The betrayed struggle with the why? And sometimes the answers is just because they can.
Murderers have no RIGHT to kill anyone just because they can. Cheaters have no RIGHT to kill a marriage just because they can. In my opinion, Green’s cheating almost KILLED my marriage by doing something that he had NO right to do. But we don’t live in a black and white world, do we? In the end just because Green had NO right to do it doesn’t mean he couldn’t do it. He DID it. He cheated on me. Green’s cheating took my right to a marriage free from infidelity away from me.
So where does that leave me, the betrayed. Once that right has been violated where was a court to cure my violated rights? Where was my justice?
Most would say then this is where the betrayed spouse regains control. Many choose to divorce. Infidelity is like an atom bomb – it destroys so profoundly for some that there is nothing left to fight for anymore. Some choose to forgive and reconcile. While the infidelity is no less offensive, no less hurtful, no less destructive this betrayed spouse instead sees a path to redemption and perhaps a way through this tragedy to rebuilding a better and stronger marriage.
I choose to forgive and to accept what happened. I chose to live a life NOT forever marked by it.
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