Confusing Mrs. Camille Cosby

20 Jul

So the whole Bill Cosby story is cheater and an alleged rapist is all over the news.  Philander or rapist? Or both? Whatever – people love a fall from grace and Bill Cosby was a hero to many and this story is too juicy to go away.

bill and camille pressAnd, so of course, the focus by some in the stupid press is often on Bill Cosby’s beautiful long time wife, Camille.

As for most wives who suffer infidelity publically (Elizabeth Edwards, Hillary Clinton, Huma Abedin, Sandra Bullock, etc) I usually just pray for them and for their situation.  I’ve been too close to being them and it sucks being the wife who got cheated on. I can’t image having to endure the media inquiries and invasion of privacy that would go along with it.bill camille emmy

So Camille Cosby has me confused!  I don’t know what to think of her…. At first I felt sorry for her.  Another beautiful wife, mother and partner is now publicly betrayed and humiliated by the person who promised to honor and cherish her.  That f’g sucks. What the hell is wrong with cheaters?!  But now that the allegations may be true? Cosby remains defiant and Camille decides to swing and hit at the victims? What?!

Right now Camille makes me want to gently shake her a bit, then hug her and then to say, “Sshhhhh Camille… sssshhhh the crazy blame you’re putting on the women? That’s not working for you. Please stop. Let’s get on a plane and go to Paris. Let’s go shopping! Let’s eat! Let’s drink! And most importantly let’s not talk to the press.”

For most of the saga Mrs. Cosby’s been stone cold silent.  Yet recently she alluded that the women who Bill Cosby drugged were willing participants, in taking the drugs and participating in consensual adulterous sex, but that it wasn’t rape.  Camille acknowledges that she knew about Bill’s infidelities but she is adamant that her husband is not a rapist. Instead the women are liars.

Reader you may disagree but in my opinion she makes betrayed wives look like morons. 

Yeah yeah yeah… I’ve laid a lot of blame on Green’s whore, his affair partner, mistress whatever I angrily want to call her...  But the difference was Maria and Green both WILLINGLY engaged in their disgusting behavior. They both chose to be TOGETHER.  In fact Maria paid for many of the outings and hotel rooms.  Did they get drunk or high together? I don’t doubt it – I saw a text once where Maria tells Green she wants to get high.  But I know that Green never pushed the affair on her & Maria never said she was pressured.  If I had suspected Green used tools like drugs, power or money to influence Maria I know I would feel differently.

I try not to judge others who’ve been betrayed. Before my own betrayal I did, I’ll admit that.  But now having lived it? I know it’s not easy path to take and it’s most often a treacherous road to recovery to navigate.   I have been judged by many who know nothing of the experience – the pain, the humiliation and the grief.  However I can’t abide a woman putting other women down in order to defend her husband.  I would not stand by behavior or a husband that almost certainly points to rape.  

I wish Camille would stay quiet. She’s better suited to handle this with the grace of not engaging in her defending her husband.   As someone married to a lawyer I know my advice to her would be to stay quiet… perhaps she could be liable? Since she was, by her own words, part of crafting his career? Did she have an arrangement to look past the affairs and to stay in a lucrative marriage? Sure, maybe, why not? But does she have to tear down women who seem truly traumatized and hurt?

Its bad enough that the media most often makes betrayed wives (husbands) look like doormat and losers. We don’t have to look like crazy blind enablers as well.

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2 Responses to “Confusing Mrs. Camille Cosby”

  1. insistonhonesty at 6:43 am #

    I can see it… the why. Legally, to protect her assets. That face of hers, smiling, though? It looks like gloating. “Ohhhh… you poor bastard. hehe” lol

  2. CrazyKat1963 at 10:58 am #

    Yes, it is not right. She needs to be quiet. By the looks of it (to be honest, I haven’t read much about it) he is a sex offender. Were there real affairs too? Honestly, betrayed wives do crazy things when backed up against a wall of shame and humiliation. It’s not pretty. We never know what we would do in someone else’s circumstances, but we like to think we could be respectful of other innocent victims. Sad.

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