13th Anniversary

21 Jul

So 13 years ago today I went out on a first date with Green. He asked and bugged me a lot.  I didn’t really want to date him… as I said in another post, Green was kind of player at our office where we met and I didn’t want to be just another notch on the bedpost.

But Green persisted. For weeks! And I relented.  And Green planned an awfully romantic date.  At the beach. With a rose.  And a fancy restaurant with reservations.  Before our date he even asked to make sure I wore something fancy.  And when I broke the heel off my pumps walking on the boardwalk he made sure we retreated to the soft sand to walk instead.  It was amazing and sweet. No sex.  We held hands.  It was a nice traditional first date.

So today Green remembered that first date.  I did too but I ignored it. Lately things have been a bit tense… I’ll write about that soon – I’m still processing a lot of it and I can’t get to writing it down just yet.  So I made no plans for today. No card. No gift.

Tonight just after I had wrestled Ditto and Dot into a squirmy and splashy bath and swaddled Dash up for his bedtime Green approached me with this little white box.

Green sat next me to me on the sofa and said, “Happy Anniversary Cookie.”  

I was genuinely surprised. I stammered as I took the box, “Um I didn’t get you anything.”

Green said nothing.

I opened the box…inside were glistening citrine and diamond earrings. “Citrine?” I asked “Why citrine? Ditto’s birthstone?” (Yeah apparently I’m apparently an ungrateful ass.)

Green leaned back and smiled,”It’s the 13th anniversary of our 1st date! Citrine is the stone for that.”

I was shocked… Wow! He did the research. I was impressed. My cold Grinch broken heart was warmed.  Green was smiling, I could tell he was quite pleased with himself.

I leaned over and I nodded for him to come over to me. I said, “You may kiss me.”

And he did.

cirtine anniversary 13

2 Responses to “13th Anniversary”

  1. tryinghard August 2, 2015 at 6:46 am #

    Wow. That was very thoughtful of Green. They do try, bless their little hearts. I hope you are enjoying the beautiful earrings with the good intentions with which they were given

    • brokengl4ss September 5, 2015 at 2:47 am #

      You are lucky. He is thoughtful. Are you comfortably numb to the memories by now? Do you still reflect and refract?

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