Understanding Your Loyal Spouse

23 Dec

So it’s nearly Christmas… TRIGGER TIME!

I am having a hard time getting my husband to understand why I am ‘not over it.’ I can’t even bring myself to go shopping for any gifts for him. I have nothing. None. Nothing. Zip.  The kiddos are taken care of… but him…. I just feels so forced.

I am 30 weeks pregnant now. Little guy is kicking like crazy… but I can’t even enjoy it.  Perhaps its my hormones…

My work life has been keeping super busy (sorry for not posting) as it deals with one crisis after another! The best one is my boss getting fired for the board of directors because of sexual harassment of a co-worker of mine who he’d been having a one-time consensual extramarital affair with. Short hand – he’s a lawyer, he’s married (with two little girls to a high profile woman in politics – Sound familiar?), he was banging a staffer off and on, then when she got a new boyfriend who said that the arrangement was gross, boyfriend threatens to break up with her & then she files for sexual harassment! So he got fired… she got a settlement & kept her job.  But now half of our funding got pulled and now 40 people may lose their job!!!! How’s that for a trigger?

Just like my stupid Green… couldn’t keep his dick in his pants and now others have to deal with the consequences.

I shared this article, Understanding your Loyal Spouse, with Green because I wanted to be ho04-homeowner-mishapsnest about how unexcited I am to be buying gifts for him.   My feels are flat. Not angry. Just flat.  Exhausted.

It’s just a time in which I think about of the Christmas in 2011 when I lavished him with gifts (I was then trying to keep him happy and not cheating… STUPID ME) and he gifted me the SAME shit he gave Maria-the-whore. Oh wait, he spent an extra $25.00 on me! YAY, it must be a recognition because I actually bore him two children, right?

I dont know if he’ll even read the article.

I don’t know that I care.

It’s too bad.. its a pretty good article. If you are the cheating spouse READ IT NOW! 

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6 Responses to “Understanding Your Loyal Spouse”

  1. Christine January 1, 2015 at 5:05 pm #

    What did your h say after you share the article?

    • Flaca May 9, 2015 at 12:19 pm #

      honestly i never asked. i was really that upset. i’ll ask him and see if remembers it. thanks!

  2. Christine March 3, 2015 at 2:46 pm #

    Just want to drop by to wish you the smooth delivery of your baby boy.

  3. Christine April 4, 2015 at 5:29 am #

    Hello..how is your baby?

    • Flaca May 7, 2015 at 6:27 pm #

      thanks for your note & thinking of me! he’s well! he was born in march! i just posted about him! 😉

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