Hacked

I have no clue who this is but i love their coordinated happy dance!

So in other adultery related news Ashley Madison (AM) the disgusting website devoted to promoting infidelity got hacked. The hackers have now released the private information (which I will not list), with photos and the adulterous fantasies or ‘likes’ of the cheaters & their partners.

Given my temperament… At first I was happy. (See the happy dance?!)

My first thoughts –

Holla! It’s time for some Instant Karma!  

Screw this filthy company. Their slogan, after all, is ““Life is short. Have an Affair.”  I hope they get sued by their clients and lose tons of money. What the fuck is wrong with this company?! 

“YES! Strike a blow to the corporate pimps who are making money off some the unknowing partner who’s being cheated on!”

After all I’m sick and tired of websites, tv shows, music and movies that promote infidelity (and there are many which I will not list here) and in my opinion contribute to the marriage destroying fetish of ‘do what feels good’ and ‘what they don’t know won’t hurt them.’   I find the whole endeavor of AM to be disgusting and the fact that someone is making money on someone else’s misery even worse.  They are in essence ‘infidelity pimps.’

In light of my own dealings with infidelity I’ve never commented publicly on AM because I don’t want to give them any screen time or publicity. I tend to agree with Trish McDermott, a consultant who helped found Match.com.  She accused Ashley Madison of being a “business built on the back of broken hearts, ruined marriages, and damaged families.”

But in light of this hack though I wanted to post this some comments here because I don’t think many folks are looking at the bigger picture. Is anyone even concerned about the innocent victims here? What about the wives/husbands and the children of these soon to be publically shamed families???

13th Anniversary

So 13 years ago today I went out on a first date with Green. He asked and bugged me a lot.  I didn’t really want to date him… as I said in another post, Green was kind of player at our office where we met and I didn’t want to be just another notch on the bedpost.

But Green persisted. For weeks! And I relented.  And Green planned an awfully romantic date.  At the beach. With a rose.  And a fancy restaurant with reservations.  Before our date he even asked to make sure I wore something fancy.  And when I broke the heel off my pumps walking on the boardwalk he made sure we retreated to the soft sand to walk instead.  It was amazing and sweet. No sex.  We held hands.  It was a nice traditional first date.

So today Green remembered that first date.  I did too but I ignored it. Lately things have been a bit tense… I’ll write about that soon – I’m still processing a lot of it and I can’t get to writing it down just yet.  So I made no plans for today. No card. No gift.

Confusing Mrs. Camille Cosby

So the whole Bill Cosby story is cheater and an alleged rapist is all over the news.  Philander or rapist? Or both? Whatever – people love a fall from grace and Bill Cosby was a hero to many and this story is too juicy to go away.

And, so of course, the focus by some in the stupid press is often on Bill Cosby’s beautiful long time wife, Camille.

As for most wives who suffer infidelity publically (Elizabeth Edwards, Hillary Clinton, Huma Abedin, Sandra Bullock, etc) I usually just pray for them and for their situation.  I’ve been too close to being them and it sucks being the wife who got cheated on. I can’t image having to endure the media inquiries and invasion of privacy that would go along with it.