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Hacked

22 Aug
happy dance

I have no clue who this is but i love their coordinated happy dance!

So in other adultery related news Ashley Madison (AM) the disgusting website devoted to promoting infidelity got hacked. The hackers have now released the private information (which I will not list), with photos and the adulterous fantasies or ‘likes’ of the cheaters & their partners.

Given my temperament… At first I was happy. (See the happy dance?!)

My first thoughts –

Holla! It’s time for some Instant Karma!  

Screw this filthy company. Their slogan, after all, is ““Life is short. Have an Affair.”  I hope they get sued by their clients and lose tons of money. What the fuck is wrong with this company?! 

YES! Strike a blow to the corporate pimps who are making money off some the unknowing partner who’s being cheated on!”

After all I’m sick and tired of websites, tv shows, music and movies that promote infidelity (and there are many which I will not list here) and in my opinion contribute to the marriage destroying fetish of ‘do what feels good’ and ‘what they don’t know won’t hurt them.’   I find the whole endeavor of AM to be disgusting and the fact that someone is making money on someone else’s misery even worse.  They are in essence ‘infidelity pimps.’

In light of my own dealings with infidelity I’ve never commented publicly on AM because I don’t want to give them any screen time or publicity. I tend to agree with Trish McDermott, a consultant who helped found Match.com.  She accused Ashley Madison of being a “business built on the back of broken hearts, ruined marriages, and damaged families.”

But in light of this hack though I wanted to post this some comments here because I don’t think many folks are looking at the bigger picture. Is anyone even concerned about the innocent victims here? What about the wives/husbands and the children of these soon to be publically shamed families???

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Rising Above the Shame

20 Sep

anne lamott shameI have a very hard time dealing with the shame and humiliation of being cheated on.  It’s overwhelming sometimes.  I struggle daily with being viewed as weak, pathetic and as a doormat.

I also turn fucking 40 years old on Monday.  I can’t fucking believe it. I don’t feel middle aged.  I think I look pretty fucking good.

But what I can’t push out of my head is humiliation that I felt on the night that I threw Green out. That night that he raged like a caged animal and Green screamed at me, “I fucking can’t stand you. You’re ugly and old!”  It was like the blast of a shot gun.  Piercing, bold fire hot and then empty and ice cold.  Green’s scary frozen and angry filled eyes.  His rage at being discovered and me confronting him (and hiding his cell phone) was truly frightening.  He finished off with more obscenities about how much better Maria-the-whore was in bed and on her knees (Who here is surprised that whores are good at blow jobs?!)

Ugh.

Green now says that he didn’t really mean it.   That he said in anger.  Green said he did it to hurt me.   That he said it because he wanted me to hurt like he was hurting.

Well it worked.

He fucking hurt me beyond all expectations.  Green wins the Gold Medal for being a fucking asshole.

Breathe.

Well I have to run off – between the kiddos I have lots of work today and I am have to be in the field to manage it.  So pray for me ladies that I don’t go off screaming on any one of my know-it-all clients.

Today I count down towards the next half of my life.  I am kind of glad to see it coming up and I am of course dreading it.  I LOVED my early 30’s.  The last few years (except for the birth of my daughters) kind of sucked. Maybe turning 40 will be a good thing.

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