Tender Text

24 May

Green sent this text to me photo(9)a a few days ago.  It came during a particularly stressful and high level meeting so I probably shouldn’t have read it then.  I am glad I did read it.  It spun the whole meeting around for me I finished feeling confident, felt loved and strong.

It came out of the blue – no fight, no talk nor had any counseling taken place before hand to trigger it.  It meant a lot to me.  Green hasn’t been terribly easy to talk to about the affair so this a big step for him.  Acknowledgement. Remorse.  Apologies. Love.

It is still hard for me to say, “I love you, too.”   I do love Green.  He knows I do.  But being that vulnerable, to say THAT out loud, is still very difficult for me.  So I hope you don’t find my response as very odd.  I swear, I’m not emotionally frigid!

For all those who don’t understand why we betrayed stay with an unfaithful spouse I offer this as a glimpse into the love we still see as worth saving in our battered marriages.  For those who are betrayed I adamantly believe in hope, reconciliation and forgiveness.  I have the first one… and I am working on the last two.


4 Responses to “Tender Text”

  1. Kay H May 24, 2013 at 8:40 pm #

    That’s a good step. Although I probably would expect a daily text like that. The level of hurt and pain infidelity brings is knee buckling. I would want my husband to kiss my ass hourly to get back in my good graces. But Green’s text is a good start so I’ll give him some credit.

  2. tryinghard May 25, 2013 at 7:39 am #

    Very nice. Love it. Yes I have hope too and forgiveness is around the corner for me too.

  3. writingaskeith May 29, 2013 at 8:15 am #

    My question is – when did you reach that point where you first glimpsed hope? I’m still moving further away.

  4. Comfortably Numb June 13, 2013 at 2:18 am #

    ALWAYS hope 🙂 I understand that response…. the first few times hubby started telling me he loved me (again) I just stared back at him gobsmacked, raised eyebrow and thinking ‘dont react dont react’ lol it never worked (as you can see) it took me a while to say it back but its never been the same as it used to be. I still say as if waiting for the punchline and I never say it first (or very rarely) and hes realised that.
    As long as these men understand WHY we are responding like we are…i dont think it matters much HOW we respond xB

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